“Recently, I heard in a video that when you can control your emotions inside, you can face any situation. And when you find the reason behind the feeling, it will help you feel the feeling better. So, how do I identify the reason for a feeling within me?”
A coachee shared this with me in a coaching session earlier today. As we continued the conversation, she was surprised to realise that one does not really need to know the reason behind a feeling to feel it! Oftentimes the reasoning becomes a hindrance to actually feeling the emotion that is emerging, as the need to reason was in fact masking a deeper fear. These insights left her feeling clearer about how she can reclaim choice in a relationship by honouring her own feeling space in the here and now.
While this is not the first time, I have encountered this kind of pattern in a coachee, I am struck by the scale of distortion and misunderstanding when it comes to how one looks at the emotional landscape and engage with it in the relational space.
Earlier this month, I had written about how relationships affect our health and well-being here. Keeping this context in mind, I feel it is a need of our times to prioritise three things when it comes to emotions and relationships.
It is this realisation that has inspired me to initiate the first online cohort of ‘Relationship As Mirror‘ program starting today. I’m excited and looking forward to learning and journeying together with this group for next four weeks.
I also take this opportunity to acknowledge the various mentors who have been my guiding lights in developing a deeper understanding of myself in the past 20 years.
Gratitude and praṇāms:
If you resonated with the ideas mentioned in this post, I’d love to hear your thoughts from your own life experiments in the relational space. Look forward to reading them in the comments or as personal messages.